When things get on top of you in business, friendships or in family life, it’s easy to lose confidence in yourself.  Your self esteem gets dented and you doubt you can “do it all”. You see other people with successful careers or businesses, busy family lives, immaculate houses and wonder how they do it.  Or do you look at them “with it all” and think that you are inadequate.  Does it start to chip away at your self confidence?  If they have a busy job, a family, a neat contemporary home why can’t you?  What’s wrong with you? Do you start to get overwhelmed by just the little things?

Over time,  this constant doubting yourself and chipping away at your self confidence can have a massive cumulative effect.  But it doesn’t have to be like this.  Stop the negative self talk and stop comparing yourself to others.  You are you. Your life is your life.  You can change it but stop the comparisons now.  You can only move on when you decide to focus on you and your life.  Look inside you.  Forget looking at others.

Okay, let begin with how to start, without being overwhelmed by the enormity of the task. Let’s start small. Small steps, small chunks are manageable. You can do it. Just focus on you, remember no comparisons. Maybe you are an untidy person: perhaps in your appearance; how you work; your desk; your house.  So where to start?  Pick one area.  It doesn’t matter which one.  Small steps.  You’ve heard of the expression

“How do you eat an elephant? The answer - Just one little chunk at a time”.

 Obviously this is just an expression, that explains how to tackle a big problem (don’t eat an elephant!). Let’s just pick the first one.  Now make a list of things that would improve your appearance:

-                      Get your hair cut

-                      Wear clean modern or classic clothes that suit you

-                      Sort out any old or out of date clothes and pass onto a charity shop

-                      Get in touch with a style guru or buy a book about how to look good

Now even that list might overwhelm you.  Chunk it down again.

Let’s pick one  - sort out your old or out of date clothes.

Set yourself a target to do every day eg go through a draw of clothes a day and sort out what is out of date or doesn’t fit you, then, when you’ve done all the draws, start on the wardrobes.  Just limit yourself to a section a day.  Chunk it down!

As you get these small tasks done you will be amazed at the impact these simple achievements will have on your life.  You will start to regain your self confidence in your ability to get things done or make changes in your life.  You will feel fresher, positive and optimistic.  Your confidence will increase as these little changes you are making add up to give a massive cumulative effect on your feelings of self worth and self esteem.

The key points are to FOCUS on you.  STOP the comparisons. Pick something you want to change or improve upon and CHUNK IT DOWN. Remember no task or change is too big if you chunk it!